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Okay, so now if you’re like me or how I would say I used to be, I’m still working through these things. Rejection is not something that I have enjoyed. I don’t think most people enjoy rejection, but it wasn’t something that I necessarily feared, but it definitely isn’t something that I wanted to happen. So sometimes I would avoid certain situations just because I had the fear of being rejected. So I didn’t even put myself out there. I wouldn’t even try.
But I want to talk about how you can use rejection to your advantage especially as an entrepreneur, which is what I am, and using rejection as your revenge. Now, as you may or may not know, I am an entrepreneur specifically in the beauty industry and I have been since 2008 when I started my business years ago. I didn’t really start my business because I felt like I needed to be an entrepreneur and this was what I really wanted to do. I did want more freedom. I definitely wanted to get out of the legal field, which I was in for 12 years prior to becoming somebody in the field of beauty and relaxation. But I was rejected a number of times, because when I started my career as a certified eyelash extension stylist where I was located, there were not many people doing what I was doing.
I was one of the first in the state and I applied at many different businesses; salons and spas; wanting to be an employee and wanting to have this as what I provided on their service menu. But it wasn’t something that people gave me the opportunity to do. So I was rejected a number of times.
So let’s talk about rejection a little bit. When you’re rejected, whether it’s in business and personal situations whether you got ghosted by a friend. And if you don’t know what ghosted means, it means somebody that you were communicating with and it was all of a sudden, it’s like they dropped off the face of the planet because they stop messaging you, they stop calling you, they stop returning your calls. You, you know, reach out to them. You don’t hear from them anymore. You get ghosted by a significant other, somebody you were dating, and you were rejected.
Somebody at some organization, some person, whatever it is, you have extended yourself to, they say, “Nah, I’m good.” The rejection is not so much you personally, so do not take it personally, but you have to be able to face it. Once you’re able to face it, then you can learn from that experience. But if you can’t face it, then you’ll never learn from it. But when you’re rejected, you will gain knowledge from that experience. And then you’ll know what to look out for if you have similar experiences in the present, future or in the further future.
So being rejected is something that can help you and it’s something that you can gain a lot of knowledge from. And it’s honestly for your good. Because what I have learned in a spiritual sense was that, oh, sometimes we don’t see the full spectrum, we don’t see the full picture. And it’s God’s way of protecting you when he will allow either people or situations or opportunities that you wanted to have in your life to not work out. It’s to protect you. So look at it as a positive. It’s something to prevent you from some harm or danger in some way, shape or form.
The more you’re rejected, the more confidence that can build. And I can say that was my experience. Again, rejection didn’t feel good at first. I didn’t say I enjoyed the rejection, but I was able to face it and I was able to learn some things from it. And also not only can it build your confidence, but it can also build your creativity level. When I became an entrepreneur, it wasn’t so much that I was set out to be a business owner. I much would have rather worked in someone else’s established business and help their business to grow and help them to be better while I was helping myself. But those situations didn’t work out. But the rejections, it built the confidence level of me to say, you know what? I know that I can do this. I know that I’m good enough to do this, so why not try? And that’s what I did. And it built up the creativity level of me to be able to start my own business. So I was able to create a business name and register that business name. I got a vision for what I would want my business to look like and then start out small. And that’s what I did over the years. I didn’t start out with this glamorous spa. Some people are able to do that and that’s great, but that was just not in my financial language. So it wasn’t what I was able to do, but I’ve made what I was able to do work. And it worked out for my good because of the rejection, it boosted my confidence level and my creativity level because there was something inside.
Most of us, when we are rejected at first we feel bad. At first it, you know, it stings a little bit. But then after a little bit of time, whether it’s five minutes later or five weeks later, you’ll start thinking within yourself and you’re like, wait a minute, now I know that I’m good enough. So why am I going to let this person that rejected me or this person that told me no or this person that told me I couldn’t do it let that be the final say over my life. I’m going to do it anyway. I’m going to move forward anyway. I’m going to be great anyway!
And that’s exactly what I did. So the rejection helped to build up my confidence level and it helped to build up my creativity. So that’s something that rejection can do for you. And that’s how rejection can work for you. And you can use rejection as your revenge because I created this business not to compete with the other businesses that I applied for jobs at and I was rejected. But I built my business in spite of them. And honestly, I didn’t look back. I didn’t look to the left or the right. I didn’t look around me. I didn’t even think about them. I just focused on what I was doing and my business became a household name. Just simply focusing on what I was doing because my confidence level had been built up so much that it wasn’t something that I really needed to look around to see if I would have the ‘okay’ from these other businesses that say, you know, Kudos, you’ve got this, you’re doing good.
I didn’t need their critique. I didn’t need their support. I didn’t need any of it. All I needed was to have that confidence level within myself to say that I could do this. So those are just some ways that you can, and you should make rejection work for you as an entrepreneur, even if you’re not an entrepreneur. This can apply to anyone and use the rejection as your revenge. I’ve been rejected by some people, even as an entrepreneur where I’ve helped other people out, and they may have rejected me later on down the line. But you know what? It may hurt for a moment, but I’m using that rejection as revenge and I’m going to be greater in spite of them. And you can be greater in spite of any rejection you have received or experienced.
If you’re in the business of any type. when you’re in business, you have to expect critics but you have to ignore them. Am I saying ignore constructive criticism? Absolutely not. I’m not saying ignore things and words that are said from people who genuinely have your best interest at heart and want to see you succeed and giving you constructive criticism that’s going to help you in your journey. But those that are trying to tear you down and saying that your business is horrible, says that you don’t know what you’re doing, the negative stuff that people will spew out at you because they’re trying to discourage you and they’re trying to play with your mind and manipulate you and they’re bringing stuff that is within themselves and projecting it on you. That’s what I’m talking about.
You need to ignore those people who tell you to quit. Most people will say to you that maybe you’re in the wrong industry, maybe you’re doing the wrong thing. I’m not saying that you don’t do your research and you don’t do evaluations and think about where you are and maybe changing some things up if you need to. That’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about the nasty critics. The negative people who have so much to say, but they’re not even doing anything themselves because most people who are busy doing things, they don’t have time to sit and critique and criticize other people. Let’s just be honest. The people who are in the Instagram comments and then youtube comments and Facebook comments or wherever are, they can leave comments that are nasty and rude and despicable and disgusting, and they’re so negative.
Who has time to do that when you’re actually working on something? Because let’s be honest, a lot of those people are working on jobs they’re extremely aggravated with and angry. They don’t want to be there. They’re playing on social media, on their bosses time when they’re supposed to be getting work done. So they have the time to get into your comment section to say something nasty and negative to you.
So do you really think they’re busy working and growing and building? No, absolutely not. So you get busy building and working and growing. You don’t have time for the BS so you don’t have time to go back and forth. Just ignore them! If you need to, hit that delete button and hit that block. Those are some amazing features that the different social media platforms have.
But expect the credits. You have to know your vision and your purpose and get in front of that vision and that purpose all the time. And don’t give up on it.
I had a meeting late yesterday afternoon with my business accountant. My accountant is also my accountability partner. It is really important that you have somebody in your life that can keep you accountable. I would say outside of your significant other or your spouse, if you can just simply because they’re a little bit less bias and they don’t have a dog in the fight.
She, of course, wants me to win and she wants me to do exceptionally better. But even though she’s my accountant and she’s here to help me to keep things going, you know, in my business, financially, she and I, we had a computer meeting, or a zoom meeting I should say, online because she’s in another state than I’m located in. She said, “come closer to the screen for a moment.” And she said, okay, your skin is popping. Definitely, your skin is glowing. But she said, have you scheduled any time for yourself recently to do something for you, whether it’s going to get a massage or, you know, whatever it is that makes you feel good about you and that you can regroup and get some clarity. And I said, I must confess, no, I haven’t. And I just had a lot of stuff recently that I’ve been trying to handle and take care of. So it’s as we, women for the most part mainly do put ourselves on the back burner and we haven’t been doing what we need to do for ourselves.
So I started thinking about what it is that I can actually do for myself and do that on a regular basis and actually put that on the calendar. Because if it’s not on the calendar, it doesn’t really exist. You can say to as many people as you want to that you’re going to get a massage every two weeks. But if you don’t actually have that scheduled, then there’s no real accountability for it. You have to put it on the calendar. So that’s one of the things that I’m going to be doing today is putting that on a calendar. And I’m trying to think of some other things that I can do to just enjoy myself and I can get some clarity and just step away from everything. Even if it’s only for an hour.
I’m also thinking about you guys. I want to know what it is that you have been putting off. Whether it is you know you are on youtube and you’re getting more subscribers or you know, you’re getting more views on your videos or you know, some other things that you may need to be doing in business and you’re getting more clients, getting more sales. Those things may be enjoyable (and definitely, they are), but with that, there’s the saying “more money, more problems”. I’m not averse to having more problems if I’m going to have more money to be able to take care of some of those problems. Let’s just be clear with that. But what I will say is with more money comes more responsibility and so it is even more important to take more care for yourself.
Focus more on you taking those times out of your schedule to do some things for yourself so that you can really enjoy the journey. Because success is not a destination. It really isn’t. It’s a journey. You’re going to continuously be moving forward and moving onward and upward. I don’t really know of any stories of people who have really gained success that said, you know what, I’m good. I don’t need any more success. Even if that means they’re not trying to get to another level in their career. There are a lot of people focusing their energies to help other people out more. And that’s something that helps them and it makes them feel more successful where they’re becoming more philanthropic and they’re giving to more organizations and charities because they have the resources and the funds be able to do that more so now. So that is their continual journey of success.
One of the things I do regularly for myself is to take care of my facial skin. It is the first thing people see! And so my skincare line is called Inez Elizabeth Beauty. It’s an amazing combination of organic and clinical skin care ingredients to give you results to give you changes on your skin that you’re going to see and other people are going to see as well. I know that my products work and I absolutely 100% use my own products so I would love for you guys to check out the products. If you put in the code perfect10 you get 10% off of your first order of skincare products.
If you are somebody like me that you need to keep yourself accountable with, making sure you have your products when you need to use them, I have a skincare club and what that’s with this membership in the skincare club there are two levels. There’s the regular membership and there’s the VIP level, the regular membership gives you some amazing skincare products that you will get shipped to you every other month. And then with the VIP membership, there are some other benefits as well. So I’m going to have a link to that as well.
My opinion that the VIP membership is where it’s at because it’s only, I believe, $20 more per month than the regular membership and you get so many more benefits from it. So I wanted to create a skincare line that was going to be affordable and also was going to give people the results that they need for their skin. So those are definitely things that I am always doing to take care of me and that I am just taking the time out to focus on me.
So even though I may have a busy schedule with working with my business locations and doing the other things that I’m doing and then taking care of home and taking care of three dogs and doing things that I need to do for my husband, whether he’s home or he’s traveling for business, it’s a lot, but I still take that time out to take care of my skin.
Don’t forget about you because success is a journey and you have to enjoy the journey. Even though we will have obstacles, we will have trials, we will have tests in this life that we live in, those things are only momentary. But also take those moments for yourself to enjoy yourself and enjoy your life.
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