by Elizabeth Jennings | Sep 12, 2019 | INSPIRATION
Okay, so now if you’re like me or how I would say I used to be, I’m still working through these things. Rejection is not something that I have enjoyed. I don’t think most people enjoy rejection, but it wasn’t something that I necessarily feared, but it definitely isn’t something that I wanted to happen. So sometimes I would avoid certain situations just because I had the fear of being rejected. So I didn’t even put myself out there. I wouldn’t even try.
But I want to talk about how you can use rejection to your advantage especially as an entrepreneur, which is what I am, and using rejection as your revenge. Now, as you may or may not know, I am an entrepreneur specifically in the beauty industry and I have been since 2008 when I started my business years ago. I didn’t really start my business because I felt like I needed to be an entrepreneur and this was what I really wanted to do. I did want more freedom. I definitely wanted to get out of the legal field, which I was in for 12 years prior to becoming somebody in the field of beauty and relaxation. But I was rejected a number of times, because when I started my career as a certified eyelash extension stylist where I was located, there were not many people doing what I was doing.
I was one of the first in the state and I applied at many different businesses; salons and spas; wanting to be an employee and wanting to have this as what I provided on their service menu. But it wasn’t something that people gave me the opportunity to do. So I was rejected a number of times.
So let’s talk about rejection a little bit. When you’re rejected, whether it’s in business and personal situations whether you got ghosted by a friend. And if you don’t know what ghosted means, it means somebody that you were communicating with and it was all of a sudden, it’s like they dropped off the face of the planet because they stop messaging you, they stop calling you, they stop returning your calls. You, you know, reach out to them. You don’t hear from them anymore. You get ghosted by a significant other, somebody you were dating, and you were rejected.
Somebody at some organization, some person, whatever it is, you have extended yourself to, they say, “Nah, I’m good.” The rejection is not so much you personally, so do not take it personally, but you have to be able to face it. Once you’re able to face it, then you can learn from that experience. But if you can’t face it, then you’ll never learn from it. But when you’re rejected, you will gain knowledge from that experience. And then you’ll know what to look out for if you have similar experiences in the present, future or in the further future.
So being rejected is something that can help you and it’s something that you can gain a lot of knowledge from. And it’s honestly for your good. Because what I have learned in a spiritual sense was that, oh, sometimes we don’t see the full spectrum, we don’t see the full picture. And it’s God’s way of protecting you when he will allow either people or situations or opportunities that you wanted to have in your life to not work out. It’s to protect you. So look at it as a positive. It’s something to prevent you from some harm or danger in some way, shape or form.
The more you’re rejected, the more confidence that can build. And I can say that was my experience. Again, rejection didn’t feel good at first. I didn’t say I enjoyed the rejection, but I was able to face it and I was able to learn some things from it. And also not only can it build your confidence, but it can also build your creativity level. When I became an entrepreneur, it wasn’t so much that I was set out to be a business owner. I much would have rather worked in someone else’s established business and help their business to grow and help them to be better while I was helping myself. But those situations didn’t work out. But the rejections, it built the confidence level of me to say, you know what? I know that I can do this. I know that I’m good enough to do this, so why not try? And that’s what I did. And it built up the creativity level of me to be able to start my own business. So I was able to create a business name and register that business name. I got a vision for what I would want my business to look like and then start out small. And that’s what I did over the years. I didn’t start out with this glamorous spa. Some people are able to do that and that’s great, but that was just not in my financial language. So it wasn’t what I was able to do, but I’ve made what I was able to do work. And it worked out for my good because of the rejection, it boosted my confidence level and my creativity level because there was something inside.
Most of us, when we are rejected at first we feel bad. At first it, you know, it stings a little bit. But then after a little bit of time, whether it’s five minutes later or five weeks later, you’ll start thinking within yourself and you’re like, wait a minute, now I know that I’m good enough. So why am I going to let this person that rejected me or this person that told me no or this person that told me I couldn’t do it let that be the final say over my life. I’m going to do it anyway. I’m going to move forward anyway. I’m going to be great anyway!
And that’s exactly what I did. So the rejection helped to build up my confidence level and it helped to build up my creativity. So that’s something that rejection can do for you. And that’s how rejection can work for you. And you can use rejection as your revenge because I created this business not to compete with the other businesses that I applied for jobs at and I was rejected. But I built my business in spite of them. And honestly, I didn’t look back. I didn’t look to the left or the right. I didn’t look around me. I didn’t even think about them. I just focused on what I was doing and my business became a household name. Just simply focusing on what I was doing because my confidence level had been built up so much that it wasn’t something that I really needed to look around to see if I would have the ‘okay’ from these other businesses that say, you know, Kudos, you’ve got this, you’re doing good.
I didn’t need their critique. I didn’t need their support. I didn’t need any of it. All I needed was to have that confidence level within myself to say that I could do this. So those are just some ways that you can, and you should make rejection work for you as an entrepreneur, even if you’re not an entrepreneur. This can apply to anyone and use the rejection as your revenge. I’ve been rejected by some people, even as an entrepreneur where I’ve helped other people out, and they may have rejected me later on down the line. But you know what? It may hurt for a moment, but I’m using that rejection as revenge and I’m going to be greater in spite of them. And you can be greater in spite of any rejection you have received or experienced.
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by Elizabeth Jennings | Jul 10, 2019 | INSPIRATION
If you’re in the business of any type. when you’re in business, you have to expect critics but you have to ignore them. Am I saying ignore constructive criticism? Absolutely not. I’m not saying ignore things and words that are said from people who genuinely have your best interest at heart and want to see you succeed and giving you constructive criticism that’s going to help you in your journey. But those that are trying to tear you down and saying that your business is horrible, says that you don’t know what you’re doing, the negative stuff that people will spew out at you because they’re trying to discourage you and they’re trying to play with your mind and manipulate you and they’re bringing stuff that is within themselves and projecting it on you. That’s what I’m talking about.
You need to ignore those people who tell you to quit. Most people will say to you that maybe you’re in the wrong industry, maybe you’re doing the wrong thing. I’m not saying that you don’t do your research and you don’t do evaluations and think about where you are and maybe changing some things up if you need to. That’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about the nasty critics. The negative people who have so much to say, but they’re not even doing anything themselves because most people who are busy doing things, they don’t have time to sit and critique and criticize other people. Let’s just be honest. The people who are in the Instagram comments and then youtube comments and Facebook comments or wherever are, they can leave comments that are nasty and rude and despicable and disgusting, and they’re so negative.
Who has time to do that when you’re actually working on something? Because let’s be honest, a lot of those people are working on jobs they’re extremely aggravated with and angry. They don’t want to be there. They’re playing on social media, on their bosses time when they’re supposed to be getting work done. So they have the time to get into your comment section to say something nasty and negative to you.
So do you really think they’re busy working and growing and building? No, absolutely not. So you get busy building and working and growing. You don’t have time for the BS so you don’t have time to go back and forth. Just ignore them! If you need to, hit that delete button and hit that block. Those are some amazing features that the different social media platforms have.
But expect the credits. You have to know your vision and your purpose and get in front of that vision and that purpose all the time. And don’t give up on it.
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by Elizabeth Jennings | Jun 12, 2019 | INSPIRATION
I had a meeting late yesterday afternoon with my business accountant. My accountant is also my accountability partner. It is really important that you have somebody in your life that can keep you accountable. I would say outside of your significant other or your spouse, if you can just simply because they’re a little bit less bias and they don’t have a dog in the fight.
She, of course, wants me to win and she wants me to do exceptionally better. But even though she’s my accountant and she’s here to help me to keep things going, you know, in my business, financially, she and I, we had a computer meeting, or a zoom meeting I should say, online because she’s in another state than I’m located in. She said, “come closer to the screen for a moment.” And she said, okay, your skin is popping. Definitely, your skin is glowing. But she said, have you scheduled any time for yourself recently to do something for you, whether it’s going to get a massage or, you know, whatever it is that makes you feel good about you and that you can regroup and get some clarity. And I said, I must confess, no, I haven’t. And I just had a lot of stuff recently that I’ve been trying to handle and take care of. So it’s as we, women for the most part mainly do put ourselves on the back burner and we haven’t been doing what we need to do for ourselves.
So I started thinking about what it is that I can actually do for myself and do that on a regular basis and actually put that on the calendar. Because if it’s not on the calendar, it doesn’t really exist. You can say to as many people as you want to that you’re going to get a massage every two weeks. But if you don’t actually have that scheduled, then there’s no real accountability for it. You have to put it on the calendar. So that’s one of the things that I’m going to be doing today is putting that on a calendar. And I’m trying to think of some other things that I can do to just enjoy myself and I can get some clarity and just step away from everything. Even if it’s only for an hour.
I’m also thinking about you guys. I want to know what it is that you have been putting off. Whether it is you know you are on youtube and you’re getting more subscribers or you know, you’re getting more views on your videos or you know, some other things that you may need to be doing in business and you’re getting more clients, getting more sales. Those things may be enjoyable (and definitely, they are), but with that, there’s the saying “more money, more problems”. I’m not averse to having more problems if I’m going to have more money to be able to take care of some of those problems. Let’s just be clear with that. But what I will say is with more money comes more responsibility and so it is even more important to take more care for yourself.
Focus more on you taking those times out of your schedule to do some things for yourself so that you can really enjoy the journey. Because success is not a destination. It really isn’t. It’s a journey. You’re going to continuously be moving forward and moving onward and upward. I don’t really know of any stories of people who have really gained success that said, you know what, I’m good. I don’t need any more success. Even if that means they’re not trying to get to another level in their career. There are a lot of people focusing their energies to help other people out more. And that’s something that helps them and it makes them feel more successful where they’re becoming more philanthropic and they’re giving to more organizations and charities because they have the resources and the funds be able to do that more so now. So that is their continual journey of success.
One of the things I do regularly for myself is to take care of my facial skin. It is the first thing people see! And so my skincare line is called Inez Elizabeth Beauty. It’s an amazing combination of organic and clinical skin care ingredients to give you results to give you changes on your skin that you’re going to see and other people are going to see as well. I know that my products work and I absolutely 100% use my own products so I would love for you guys to check out the products. If you put in the code perfect10 you get 10% off of your first order of skincare products.
If you are somebody like me that you need to keep yourself accountable with, making sure you have your products when you need to use them, I have a skincare club and what that’s with this membership in the skincare club there are two levels. There’s the regular membership and there’s the VIP level, the regular membership gives you some amazing skincare products that you will get shipped to you every other month. And then with the VIP membership, there are some other benefits as well. So I’m going to have a link to that as well.
My opinion that the VIP membership is where it’s at because it’s only, I believe, $20 more per month than the regular membership and you get so many more benefits from it. So I wanted to create a skincare line that was going to be affordable and also was going to give people the results that they need for their skin. So those are definitely things that I am always doing to take care of me and that I am just taking the time out to focus on me.
So even though I may have a busy schedule with working with my business locations and doing the other things that I’m doing and then taking care of home and taking care of three dogs and doing things that I need to do for my husband, whether he’s home or he’s traveling for business, it’s a lot, but I still take that time out to take care of my skin.
Don’t forget about you because success is a journey and you have to enjoy the journey. Even though we will have obstacles, we will have trials, we will have tests in this life that we live in, those things are only momentary. But also take those moments for yourself to enjoy yourself and enjoy your life.
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by Elizabeth Jennings | May 8, 2019 | INSPIRATION
Yesterday I went to a thrift store I hadn’t been to in a long time. I actually went in to get some old scrubs because I just wanted to get some things that I could wear when I’m working with the dogs and when I’m doing things with the dogs in the backyard because my husband has Staffordshire bull terriers, so they like to jump on me and things and they always get my clothes all messed up. So I said, you know what, let me run into the store and see if I could just get some old scrubs.
Anyway, the girl behind the counter, she looked a little familiar to me, but I wasn’t sure if I knew who she was or not, but I just kept it moving. So when I found what I needed and I went up to the counter, she greeted, you know, she made sure I heard her say hello. I greeted her back. But anyway, she was very friendly. She was ringing up my stuff and then, you know, she was like, I really want to put the scrubs together. It’s nice that you found some sets because they don’t allow us to put the tops and the bottoms together. But she asked me what I did for a living and I told her what I do.
I said I’m an esthetician. And she said, Oh wow, okay. She said, well, where do you work? So I told her the name of the business that I work in and then she proceeded to ask me, Oh, do you just work there or do you own the business? That’s not a normal question for somebody to ask someone when they say they worked somewhere. But I thought she was just kind of fishing because she might have recognized me or something.
Well, when I told her, I said, well yeah, I work there, but I do also own the business. And then she started telling me how she’s like, I don’t know if you remember me, but I used to work at a salon and spa years ago. She said the name of it. And she said, you know, it was a very long time ago. I’m not sure if you remember the place.
And I said, yeah, I remember it. I used to work there. I rented a space in the building. And so she said, okay, yeah, I thought you seemed familiar. But she said, wow, I hear so many good things about your business. And you know, and I had heard years ago that a girl who used to work at that salon and spa opened up the business and that it was doing really. So I just thought I would ask you and see if you remembered the place that we used to work at. And I said, yeah, I do. I remember it was a long time ago, but I definitely remember it and she said, well that’s great. Like congratulations. And she was very nice and just said a lot of Nice things about the business that she has heard over the years.
So she said, you have a really great reputation. I hear nothing but good things about it. Well, I’m saying all that to say that this girl, she was very friendly in the store, but it turns out she was someone that was not very nice to me back in the day. I’m not sure if it was just me or it was because she just didn’t know who I was, and didn’t know me at all. So she was not, she wasn’t friendly at all. Whenever I would walk in, if she was there, when I would greet her, she would just look very stone cold, just right at me and not greet back. And I didn’t understand it. It was like, Whoa, what’s that about? Like why is she like that? Is it, you know, it wasn’t something that I did. Is She just like that with me? I don’t know.
It didn’t really matter a whole lot. I continued to do what I was doing with my business. Starting very small, starting as a solo practitioner, working in the salon and spa amongst a lot of other people. But she was just not nice at all. And to see the same person today who didn’t even acknowledge my presence back in the day was so friendly to me on yesterday and not only friendly to me in terms of complimenting me and the good things that she’s heard about my business, but also saying, you know, I’m going to give you our employee discount and you know, things I didn’t ask for that was like, you know, a kind gesture that she gave me. But I was like, wow. And I talked to one of my employees about it and I even told my mom about it and I said, you know, it’s just funny because the same person who was not nice to me years ago was so congratulatory with me on yesterday, was super friendly.
I just wanted to encourage somebody, if you don’t quit the same people who counted you out years ago, will be congratulating you later. It is not a big thing. I don’t sweat stuff like that. I wasn’t like, Oh wow, okay. Back in the day you didn’t like me, didn’t acknowledge me. You wouldn’t even say hello to me, but now you’re super friendly and you know, you’re congratulating me and you’re offering me, you know, discounts and stuff like that. Like I took it humbly. I didn’t gloat about it and I didn’t remind her of how I thought she wasn’t very nice to me back in the day. That’s water under the bridge for me, I do know how to move on. I really don’t hold grudges, but it’s just something to think about as something to realize and know that you’re going to come against a lot of obstacles in your business journey and in your life.
A lot of people are going to count you out. They’re going to make you seem as if you’re nobody. You’re nothing. You can’t do what you want to do and you know, and they won’t even acknowledge your presence, but then you continue to go at it and you continue to do what you’re doing and then you reach levels of success, some greater than others, but you reached the levels of success that other people will be able to witness it and knowledge and they cannot deny you. They cannot doubt you even if they tried to. People who counted you out before, they will be congratulating you later. So that’s just a quick moment of inspiration for you all from me, The Minister Of Beauty. If you have been counted out and now you’re winning and people are congratulating you now, let me know. Hey, I’m not really seeing the success that I want to see Yet, but I’m not going to quit because those same people that counted me out, they will be congratulating later.
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by Elizabeth Jennings | Apr 10, 2019 | INSPIRATION
You may have had some doors closed in your face, in your life, in your business, in your school that you’re attending and it can feel very discouraging. I know because I’ve been there on a number of occasions in my life, seriously, but I’m here to tell you from my own personal and business scenarios that closed doors do not mean dead ends and they can be great opportunities for you to start over to do something different. I had a number of doors closed in my face, like I said, over the years, but especially in 2018 I had a number of things that turned around a number of people that did different things and closed the doors on me and it was hurtful for a moment. I did feel like, well, is this it? Is this the end?
But I soon picked myself back up and I realized that, you know what, I didn’t get into this because these people were the ones that told me to do this. I got into this because I knew that I had a vision and a plan and God has something greater for me. So just because they may have closed the doors doesn’t mean that it’s a dead end. It just means it’s an opportunity for me to regroup. I think about things a little bit differently, make some plans, arrangements that are going to turn some things around and it’s absolutely turning around. So again, close doors do not mean dead ends. They can be great opportunities for success. Think about some of the greats in business who have had situations that happen to them, but they became more super successful than other people could have ever imagined or dreamed and sometimes maybe even bigger than they even imagined or dreamed.
So don’t see a closed door as a dead end. See it as an opportunity. Seize on the moment, do your research, get coaching, mentoring whatever you need to do to help you because you can’t do it all alone. You do need help, and watch things start to flourish and turn around in your life. And then be thankful for that closed door as an open opportunity.
Let me know some situations that you’ve had where you had a door close in your life, whether it was personal or business, and how you overcame it, or if you’re still going through. If you would like to schedule a chat with me, you can do so here. https://calendly.com/themobeauty
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by Elizabeth Jennings | Mar 13, 2019 | INSPIRATION
I am a successful beauty business entrepreneur and it did not come easy, but it came and it’s continuing to come. But for many years I was really ashamed of talking about the success that I have obtained and you don’t have to tell somebody how much money you’re making or how much was in your bank accounts or any of that stuff. Cause honestly I just have boundaries and I feel like there’s certain things that you share and certain things that you just don’t, I don’t care how much someone is paying you or how much someone likes you. There are just some things that don’t need to be shared with everyone. But I didn’t feel that I was worthy of sharing the successes that I gained because I felt like at one point that it was something that if I said I would be bragging, and I didn’t feel comfortable with it.
Here’s why you have to share your story and glory. It’s cool to talk about the struggles and to let people know what and where you may have fallen short or you may have failed. But it’s even more important sometimes to share it with people from the failures and from the shortcomings, the success that you have achieved and the glory that you have received. And when I talk about glory, I’m talking about the stuff, the, you know, the money, the blessings, the higher levels, all of those things. That’s the glory. You know, that’s just some of it I should say. You have to share that because it’s not just for you, it’s to help somebody else. You never know who is going to be inspired by you, who needs to hear what you have gone through and how you overcame it and how you obtained the victory.
Because there’s somebody that’s going to walk that same path that you have walked. And actually, there may be many people who will walk that same path that you walked and they need to know that somebody like them experienced similar situations and made it out! That gives them hope. And they can say, well, if that person did it, I definitely should be able to do this. I definitely should be able to obtain victory and not live in defeat. They will feel they can get over and above their circumstances and struggles and be greater and better than where they are right now. It gives people hope and that’s what people really need because we do live in a very dark world and discouraging society. You have people that are rooting for you to fail, so to have someone that they look up to, even if they’re younger than you, it’s not always about someone looking up to you because you are older than them.
They may be older than you and they may not have found that person in their life that they can relate with. They can say, wow, this person is doing it and they’re younger than me. If they can do it and I’m still here, it’s not too late for me, I should be able to do this too. So that’s why you have to share your story and your glory and do not be ashamed of it. So do you have issues with sharing your story and your glorious outcomes because you feel like you’re bragging about it or you don’t want anyone to feel that you are thinking that you’re better than them because you’re talking about the blessings that have happened in your life?
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